Joy vs. Sorrow or Joy + Sorrow

I feel so sad when I read all of the posts on the different pages dedicated to grief on Facebook. So many people are suffering so much as a result of the death of a loved one; they are literally drowning in their grief. It is as if a very dark cloud is hovering over them and they cannot see the sun at all even after many years have passed. My heart aches for each and every one of them. I want so badly to be able to bring them some relief and lift their spirits. I want to gather up all their suffering and channel it into a force for the good. I know it’s possible because I have experienced many healings in my life from God doing this with my suffering. I am well aware of the fact that sadness

The Profound Agony of Miscarriage

I am writing this article because I know that I am not alone. I know that even in the midst of my deep grief and agony, there are others like me. I have just lost my fourth child to miscarriage. I don’t have profound spiritual insight to offer right now. Even though I am a student theologian, I won’t be offering theological explanations today. That will come later when the pain is less acute. For now, the pain, sorrow, and intense suffering must run its course. I want to explain the agony of miscarriage. First, this is to minister to those who suffer with me, and second, it is to explain that a miscarriage is the loss of a child; something that needs to be explained to a culture that has de

Grief as Spiritual Purification and Renewal

This is strangely comforting, especially the words in bold. This article is from Catholic Exchange and is taken from a letter collected in "Finding Confidence in Times of Trial: The Letters of St. John of Avila". Click here to preview other chapters. Madam, I have delayed writing to you, for I thought that my words could do little to mitigate the great sorrow which they tell me you are suffering. It seemed to me that I could help you better by interceding on your behalf with the God of all consolation, than by anything I could say. However, I am strongly urged to send you a letter, and as it is so much desired and our Lord is able to fulfill His purposes even by such means as this, I must no

Spiritual Warfare: Living Water of Redemptive Suffering

The material from this post was written many years before my son's death in 2015 but the lessons learned and habits formed at that time in my life were so important in enabling me to stay connected to God during my darkest hour. REDEMPTIVE SUFFERING "Now I rejoice in my suffering for your sake and in my flesh I am completing what is lacking in the sufferings of Christ for the sake of his body, the Church" (Colossians 1:24). Many of us are familiar with the phrase “Offer it up!” but do we really understand what it means? To know this can be life-changing! At least it was for me. The first eight years of my marriage were full of heartaches but at the time I did not understand the concept of re

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